Being the Best YOU For Your Kids

Unless you live under a rock, I have no doubt you have heard something about the civil unrest worldwide. People Of Colour, specifically Black people have had enough. After centuries of abuse by those in position of power, hiding behind the guise of Justice, they have drawn a line in the sand and people world round have thrown up their fist in support.

For those of you reading this rolling your eyes and murmuring something about finding a political post on a parenting page, let me stop you right there. This will in fact be a parenting post, but I think it’s more important for you to take a step back and question your reaction to having this difficult discussion.

Human Rights is not political.

It’s a question of morals and maybe along the way you have found a way to hide confronting your morals by labeling human issues as political. To that, I would simply say; you need to stop being so self involved and ignorant and educate yourself. The world doesn’t stop and end at your front door and this is the world you will be leaving behind for you children to live in, for a lot of us, especially People of Colour and Black people, to fight in.

Do better.

The key right now to some type of resolution is of course keeping the conversation going. It’s a difficult conversation to have, as I know first hand, because it’s one where it seems People of Colour and Black people are defending their stance to white people, more specifically white westerners.

It’s a you vs. us conversation.


This is a very loaded topic to unpack but realistically it boils down to advancements through history by white europeans have often come at a cost for the people of colour around them. If you want to dive into this more you can educate yourself on Indigenous People and their plight. The information is out there, and it’s a lot for me to get into in a single blog post.

Black people are not asking to take anything away from white people. We are simply asking for EQUALITY. If in some way you believe equality will take away from your comfort of privilege than you are part of the problem. Plain and simple. I am sorry if that rubs you the wrong way, but treating people less than you because of the colour of your skin should never be okay.

As a human being and a parent, that should be obvious to you.

We live in an age of technology. It’s at the point now where if you had the urge, you could learn more sitting on your couch with your phone in your hand than you could in a classroom. Crazy right? Is that true? Absolutely, because with the phone in your hand you control your education and your intake instead of the government deciding what you need to know and which narrative to push.

So why, when we could make the decision to fully educate ourselves and dive into this human rights issue head first, are so many bulking at educated conversations?

It’s quite simple: the narrative of the world is the one pushed onto them by their parent’s view from a very young age, and they struggle to move away from them and find their own views and morals that may contradict a lifetime of teaching.

See, this is a parenting issue.

We have all read the articles, heard the doctor’s speeches at conferences go on about how the mind of a child is a sponge and they suck up knowledge and views at such a young age. Well, what happens when that sponge lives in a house of hate and bigotry? Where they push a racial superiority dialogue onto their child, no matter how subtle?

Well, in a lot of cases, you are creating a very close minded individual who will look at what is happening in the world today and scoff at people’s struggles with some racial comment about ‘Those people’ causing trouble for no reason.

This is why it’s so important to always question yourself. Question your views, your morals, your behaviour and ask a very important question: Why?

Why do you think the way you do? Why do you believe in the things you believe? Does what you beliefs oppress anyone or any specific group of people?

Question your humanity.


Because when you decided to become a parent, you decided to take on this enormous responsibility of being the absolute best version of yourself for your child. That means questioning who you are as a person every chance you get to be sure you are not unintentionally putting up road blocks for them as they go through life.

Your ignorance can hinder your child in ways you can’t even imagine. Trust me, I know. I’ve been out there, I’ve been having the tough conversations with people before making the decision to cut people out of my life. I have been utterly shocked and surprised at their ignorance about so many issues and so many races.

Even when we get down to it and remove racial issues from this world, the world is still a very dark and difficult place right now. Our children will have to fight their way through life. Don’t you want to make that fight a little bit easier for them? Wouldn’t you rather fight tooth and nail now, against racial and gender inequalities, against a broken educational and judicial system, against hate and bigotry, and even against your own broken and blinded beliefs and morals, so they don’t have to fight as hard later?

Isn’t that good parenting?

Your job is to make sure your child has their best chance at life. Right now, especially for Black people, their job is just to keep their children alive.


Just for a second, look over at your child and forget about their expenses, forget about the plans and dreams you have for them and imagine the only thought you have when you look at them isn’t about what job they will fall into or their success, but simply that they will be alive past their teen years, into their twenties. Your only hope for them is that they get to live, and then ask yourself if that question and hope is fair.

If you shrug and try to rationalize the hard question so many Black parents and parents of children of colour have to ask themselves every day by spouting some biased crime stats or generalization about that race of people, then I am sorry, but you are failing your child as their parent.

Be better. Do better, if not for yourself, for your children.

Find your humanity.